by Sheila Kreifels, LMFT
Only 50% of couples who marry in 2013 will remain married. There is a 23% increase in couples choosing to live together. More married couples are living lives of quiet desperation. Have we “lost that lovin’ feeling?” Marriage and family therapists Sheila Kreifels and Teresa Lauer claim that love and marriage are in distress and offer a S.O.S. (urgent appeal for help!) in their new book, How To Be A Couple: Sex, Love and Marriage. Whether you are dating, engaged, living together, newly married or in a long term marriage, this book is the life preserver to rescue your relationship!
“Statistically, couples come to therapy 6 years after problems arise in their marriage. There is a lot of damage. Salvaging a marriage after years of destruction is like turning around a ship on autopilot. That is why we decided to write a book capturing our personal and professional expertise about love and marriage. We want to help you prevent the pitfalls, land mines and tug-a-wars of conflict and navigate the stages of a love relationship to the delightful destination of “happily ever after”!
One of the obstacles that couples must overcome together is how to define love. If they ask, “How can I be loved?” then the result is usually career success for men and the pursuit of physical attractiveness for women, yet no one feels more loved. In desperate attempts to fulfill this desire couples resort to demanding, criticizing, controlling, and shaming communication styles to be loved. In How To Be A Couple: Sex, Love and Marriage, discover the question that can unlock your own power to cultivate love in your most intimate relationship.
Our “rugged individualism” makes the necessary journey from a “me” centered existence to a “we” collaborative partnership difficult. Couples compete, accommodate and avoid their differences. If you are tired of having the same argument, behaving like roommates, or experiencing a loveless relationship, this book is for you! It offers all of the necessary tools and skills to get your “run- a- ground” relationship back to smooth sailing Allow us to be your guides on your journey from first glance to everlasting romance.
Refuse to become another statistic. Come on board. With the questions, insights, examples and tools in this book, you will not only be able to discover what love is, you will be able to master what it takes to experience a love that lasts a lifetime.